Where Did The Love Go?


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Now to be fair that isn’t really the title for this post but did it catch your eye?

I recently watched “Men. Women and Children” which is a film about relationships in the modern era where social media and technology has taken over lives. There are a number of stories going on in this film but the one that struck a chord with me was the Adam Sandler and Rosemarie DeWitt one. They portray a married couple with teenage children who have become stuck in a rut that they seek satisfaction from outsiders. He starts off by watching porn and ends up with an “escort” whilst she joins the Ashley Madison dating site (famous for being a site to facilitate affairs) and has an affair. He finds out and confronts her but rather than judge he informs her that he’s also been misbehaving. Their marriage gets back on track. *

I just found it so sad that it got to that stage but I can see how easily it could go that way.

(* this was one of those weird films where it comments on the modern era and makes you think and question certain things – worth a watch!)

As you know, hubby and I have been married for 3 years this year and yes of course we still love each other as much as we ever did, but occasionally I feel like we’re not as lovey dovey as we used to be. Is this because we’ve come stuck into a routine?

I feel like we never kiss each other good bye in the morning because one of us is dashing off to work or to drop off Little Miss at childcare. We’re so tried these days between looking after the two of them that we hardly cuddle. At the moment we haven’t got time to snuggle on the sofa because one of us is holding the baby.

I know it’s a phase and it will pass but I don’t want to leave it so we feel disconnected from each other. With this in mind, I’m hoping to persuade hubby’s parents to look after the little ones so we can have a date night. Because we’re so tired we’ve decided to have a Date Night Movie Night instead!

So, any suggestions as to what we should watch?


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  1. 29th Sep 2015 / 5:06 pm

    It’s natural to have good and not-so-good periods as life changes. I wrote a post about what makes a marriage happy, you have to find out what is important for you and do it. Missing a kiss in the morning can be a sign that something must be done or something normal for another couple.
    In a few days we’ll celebrate 13 years since we met each other in a train, I can’t believe how many years went by 🙂

  2. mummyofboygirltwins
    1st Oct 2015 / 11:23 am

    It is just a phase. When the twins starting going to bed at 7pm we found we our life back again and relationship. Now we can even go for dinner when the babysitters are here! It does come back; the love is just a little different when the children are babies xxxx

  3. 8th Oct 2015 / 9:00 pm

    Bless you lovely, it’s not easy when the children are younger…although I was divorced when my youngest was 4 so I’m not the best example! When you;re with the right person you can get through anything, but you do need to remember to take care of each other as well as the children 😉
    Thanks for linking up to #Picknmix Stevie xx

  4. MummyandMonkeys
    8th Oct 2015 / 9:19 pm

    Its tough and we go through phases. We have at least one date out of the house away from distractions planned each month which I’m finding helps. Thanks for linking to #PickNMix

  5. Lisa@intotheglade
    9th Oct 2015 / 10:58 pm

    You will get your life back. We even managed a little holiday on our own this year to celebrate our sliver wedding ha! But honestly once you have proper bed times for both girls, it will get easier, – I promise. Those infant days are so flipping difficult and tiredness is on another level isn’t it? Take care xx

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